Am I just a booty call to him?

Dating

Figure out whether he is actually interested or you are just a booty call to him. You can get a bit confused when you are into someone. You start seeing some of the obvious signs of booty call as interest from him. So let us help you differentiate.

So first let’s break down what a booty call is. A booty call is when someone texts or calls you just for hook-up purposes. If all you are looking for is a hook up then this might be the perfect setup for you. If you are looking for something more it might be time to ask for what you want!

Is he booty calling you?

What time is he messaging you?

Time matters. If he is only telling you to come over at night then something is up. You know nothing good happens in the dark. Check the time he is messaging. You up texts at 2 am means he is just thinking of you when he is intoxicated and needs someone at that moment. He isn’t looking for a long-term girl he is looking for something immediate at that moment. When he thinks of you matters.

What do the texts say?

Context, context, and context. What do the texts say? As I said before if it is You Up at 2 am that that is a booty call. Is he asking you to come over last minute and at night and all you guys do is go to his house then it might be time to take that as a booty call? If you want to change that tell him you want to go on a date and see how he reacts.

Does he take you out

You are special and deserve outside dates if you want them. Now of course some people just like Netflix and Chill but if you are the type that wants to go on dates and be outside the house then make it clear. If he is always keeping the dates inside and at the house then you should start questioning what is happening. If he is not taking you out there is something behind it usually.

Do you meet during the day?

Timing matters and if the dates are only happening after a certain time question it. No one is only available at night. What is he doing in the daytime? Most people don’t work on Saturday and Sunday. So if he isn’t working on Saturday and Sunday why isn’t he making time for you then?

Does he plan anything for the date?

Home dates can be cute if there is some planning involved. Does he plan a movie to watch, cooking together or a game. If he is putting in effort and thought into it then it is not necessarily a booty call.

Does he let you sleep over?

Does he ask you to sleep over or do you have to leave at night? If he expects you to leave then he might just be looking for a hookup and nothing serious. Talk to him about it.

The only way to get from a booty call to something serious is to talk about it. He might not want to take that next step into seriousness and a hook-up is all he wants. If that’s not want you want don’t stay in this hoping his mind changes. You can get better so enter the dating world again and find something better.

Not sure how to talk about such serious matters with him? We have can help you out with the where is this going conversation.

 

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