Top Ways to Learn How to Love Yourself More


It is easy to tell someone you love yourself and much more difficult to describe how to do it. Learn and practice these tips to start loving yourself more each day. It is all about taking the small steps and getting better at it each day. 

Why is Self-Love Important?

Learning to love yourself is important to living happier and healthier in all aspects of your life. It influences who you choose to be your life partner, the image you project at work, how you achieve your job, the way you raise your children, how you interact with those around you, and how you deal with problems in your life. It impacts how you feel about everything. 

love yourself

Tips to Learn How to Love Yourself & Believe in Yourself Again

Travel Once a Year

This may be completely out of your comfort zone, but that’s a good thing! If you can go all alone, this will be an incredible self esteem insight. You will learn new things not only about yourself but also about another culture. This will also help you break out of your normal routine. 

It is also important to experience travelling alone that will help you experience being on your own. Learning to spend time with yourself.

learn to love yourself through travel

Start a Journal

If you can write down your thoughts and feelings, you can come back later and see how you dealt with certain situations. This is also a positive way to get rid of negative experiences and feelings, helping you focus on the good things and learn from the bad.

Start writing a journal and notice the words you use. Are you using a lot ‘should do this’ or ‘can’t do that.’ Are you overly negative in the way you talk to yourself. Writing it down will help you notice. You can then rewrite the words in a positive way. Then say it out aloud so you can hear the words. Practicing this everyday can change the way you view yourself.

Love Yourself by Saying NO to Others

Sometimes we do too much for people; we like to please other people, so we tend to try too hard and commit to everything we can. Sometimes we can forget to take care of ourselves, so it is good to say no. Focus on yourself when you can or feel overwhelmed.

That is why it is important to set healthy boundaries. Take care of yourself and fill your own cup before you can be there for others. Practicing say no when you don’t want to do something can help.

Don’t Compare Yourself With Others.

Others are neither better nor worse, more or less than you; They are simply different. You have value just the way you are and accepting yourself means there is no need for comparisons.

This has become even more prevalent since the rapid increase in people using social media. We see a snapshot of people’s best moments and then compare our own lives to it. Comparing ourself to a filter is also problematic. What we should be doing is comparing ourself to our past self and seeing how far you have come. You are doing great!

How to Love Yourself by Challenging Yourself

If you can challenge yourself, you will also come to know yourself and what you can do. Perhaps you are a singer who sings as a hobby but has wanted to sing at a concert for years. If you can take that leap and book a concert, you will challenge yourself and feel much more confident. Get out of your comfort self. 

challenge yourself

Take Care of Yourself

This one probably seems obvious, but taking care of yourself plays an important role in learning to love yourself, and many people don’t. If you deal with yourself, you will be simply the best form. Please take a look at our personal care ideas to get started. You can use the Law of Attraction to start working toward the life you want to live, including loving yourself. What you think about ends up manifesting itself in your life. 

Share Yourself

On this path of self-discovery, you will discover truths about yourself that will terrify and shock you. But the goal is to work your way through them and start loving yourself more through understanding and acceptance. And only after you’ve worked out your potholes can you begin to see diamonds in the rough – your gifts.

These are the qualities of you that survive the journey. Empathy, spirituality, humor, love – everything you’ve cleaned up after erasing everything else. And when you love yourself and the things around you, only then can you properly share yourself with the world. Surrender your true self to the world and those around you. Now that you love yourself, it is time to start helping others to find the highest form of self-love for themselves.

How to Learn to Love Yourself After a Breakup?

Me Before You

How to love yourself again What things did you love to do before you met this person? Was he on horseback or foot? Maybe she was writing or singing. Start doing those things again. Please make a list of all the things you missed doing that used to bring you joy and do them. Find you before them.

Truth Letter

Write a letter to your partner and let out all those emotions you have been suppressing for so long! At full steam, without retentions. Write until your hand hurts and you’ve finally got everything out of your system.

Once you’re done, go outside, get a match, and light the letter. As it burns, think about all the emotional charge you are shedding and let it flow through you before it finally leaves your mind.

Go on a Date!

Go out on a date! Have a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee shop or take a nice walk in the park. Would you like to go to the film? Do that too! Even better: bring your friends with you and have a great night out. Experience passionate feelings for yourself and your life once more. Buy yourself flowers or a new perfume! Go on an outing, alone or with your companions!


How to Learn to Love Yourself When You Are in a Relationship?

Stay Focused on Your Goals

It is good to imagine what your life will be like with your partner. You may be daydreaming about marriage and your future together at this fun time in your relationship. With that said, don’t forget about your own goals. Things like your career and your wishes for your life path should be at the top of your list. 

This does not mean that you should plan a life separate from your partner. It just means that as you think about life together, you need to remember to include the things you want to do now, as well as the things you wanted to do before you met them. Of course, in a relationship comprise is important but you can’t forget about everything you wanted. Find a balance. 

Maintain Space and Independence

It is not healthy to allow the relationship to absorb your identity and lose you as a person. Maintain your rituals, your activities, and your friends. Part ways doing whatever you might feel like doing to support your spirit. You can have a dependant life and independent life. Hang out with your friends and your partner but also have a girls night when you need it. Enjoy a hobby go about it your own. Your partner does not need to be part of every aspect of your life.

Forgive Yourself for Your Failures

Holding resentment against yourself impedes self-love. It is inevitable in a relationship that there will be times when you will say or do things that you regret. Please don’t blame yourself for it. Instead learn from your failures. That is what they are for. Everyone is going to fail at some point and that is okay. We can become a better version of ourselves from those failures.




A place to find information on all things wellness, dating, food and movies related. Basically our version of Netflix and Chill. If you are looking for advice and want the unfiltered truth well you have come to the right place. Read our insightful blogs and you will leave inspired. Welcome to Pigeon Talk!

Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

4 − two =