asking a guy out

Is it okay to ask a guy out on a dating app?


Have you been texting someone and he hasn’t asked you out yet? Do you want to meet up? Are you left wondering is it okay to ask a guy out? Well, we have advice that you might resonate with.

Why do you think it is not okay to ask a guy out?

We have been taught by society that girls should keep guys waiting. That guys like girls who have mystery and make them chase them. But do you really want someone who is just in it for the game? Who can’t just take it if a girl asks him out? Just like it is okay to text a guy first it is okay to ask him out.

Asking someone out is stressful and if you are willing to take the plunge he should feel a sense of relief.

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Reasons it is okay to ask a guy out

It shows you are confident

It shows you know what you want and are willing to go for it. There are guys out there that find that sexy. They want you to be able to be who you are. I have asked multiple guys what they find attractive and I have heard the answer ‘confidence’ a lot. What is more confident than asking someone out?

You don’t need to spend so much time texting

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If you don’t like texting for weeks and months then you don’t have to. You can meet up and find out if you are actually interested in the person. Instead of investing time and then meeting him and realizing that you don’t like him at all.

Texting can get boring. You might get uninterested if you text too long and it can happen with the other person too. That’s why in non-pandemic time I just like meeting as soon as possible.

It doesn’t show you are too fast or looking for a hookup

Some people think that if you meet too fast or ask to meet it gives the wrong impression. You can be clear of your intention by asking them what they are looking for and then deciding whether to meet. I ask guys what they are looking for and make it clear that I am not interested in a hook up. You can do the same.

You are doing him a favour

Guys are unsure themselves whether you will find it too fast and say no. So they try to text for longer. If you ask him he might actually feel a sense of relief. I have asked guys out and they have actually been happy that I did because I took the pressure of them having to figure out if I was ready yet.

Feel Empowered

Taking the power in your hand can be feel amazing. Asking a guy out does exactly that. You will feel great for making the decision yourself. So take the control and ask him out!

How to ask a guy out

It is as simple as saying do you want to go on a date with me. If you don’t want to be blatant you can say oh I don’t like texting I prefer meeting people in person. This way you haven’t asked directly and you can leave the ball in his court. I am more a let’s get this task done so I go ahead and ask do you want to meet. Or suggest a fun date say I am thinking of going checking this out do you want to join.

You got this girl! He is talking to you to and it’s for a reason. If the reason is to waste your time then you’ll find out. Meet him and move onto the next step.

Wrap up for is it okay to ask a guy out

If you don’t feel comfortable asking him out that is okay. Do what feels right for you and what you are comfortable with. But if you are interested in asking him out, do it! You don’t want to miss an opportunity and have him get bored with the texting.

Take control of your life and make the move. “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.” – Wayne Gretzky. 


Not convinced to ask him out? Well you can continue texting and we have great ways you can keep the texting conversation going.

We can also help with great dating conversation starters.

Lastly, comment below and let us know what your opinion is on whether it is okay to ask a guy out.


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