Like everything, we have made dating a fast-paced game. We swipe all day every day. Then go on multiple dates. Invest so much time in so many people. It can get completely exhausting. Especially if you aren’t getting the results you are looking for. That is why we need to talk about taking a break from dating!
Taking a break from dating is okay
Dating can take a toll
Imagine you are applying to like 10 jobs every day over a year. You make it to the interview, the second round interview, and then nothing. How exhausted would you be? Extremely exhausted and you would want a break.
Now dating is the same thing. It is even more exhausting than applying for jobs because you are investing your emotions into these people. Every time it doesn’t work out you feel a drain. It’s difficult not to have thoughts like am I doing something wrong? Is there something wrong with me? Did I waste my time? How are other people finding people so easily? Am I not good enough? It is okay to have these thoughts we are only human. Acknowledge them give yourself some time. You need a breather.
How long should the break be for
How much time you need to breathe is up to you. You don’t have to end it with someone and just jump back in because you don’t know what else to do. You don’t want to feel the end of that thing to avoid your feelings the only way is to dive back in.
Burnout from dating
Just like there can be burnout with work there can be burnout with dating. You don’t want to get mentally drained to the point that it is difficult to come back from. Take a few days a month whatever you need.
Taking time off from dating isn’t bad
Taking time off from dating isn’t a bad thing. It helps with acknowledging your feelings. Realizing that you can survive on your own. It gives you time to understand what you are looking for. You can reenergize in this time.
Taking a step back from dating can make you realize things like for example I realized I was only attracting people who were unavailable. This realization has made me change the way I date. So question yourself what type of men have you been attracting?
It can help you settle those feelings in. It is okay to feel something for it ending even if you weren’t in a relationship. Anything coming to end is saddening so let yourself feel those feels.
Put a pause on the app
So deactivate that application and stop swiping for a bit. Making small talk, again and again, would take a toll on anyone. You aren’t going to miss out on someone if you give yourself some time and space. Instead, with this time and space, you’ll come back more rejuvenated ready to take on that dating world. You will be more open to what awaits you and for the challenge.
Listen to your body when it tells you to pause something. If you are asking yourself if it is okay to take a break then it is probably time.
Wrap up for Taking a break from dating
There can be pressure when people are asking you why are you single. Or telling you to get back on the dating app. But you only know what’s best for you and if you think it is time to put a pause it is time to put a pause on it.
There is someone out there for you. You just need to give it some time. So take that break and then hop back on and who knows what’s waiting there for you. There is a time for everything!
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